Etiquette, Rules & Conduct


No means no

While visiting our community, respect that no means no.  If another member is not interested in you, do not take it personally.  Simply move on to the next person.  When meeting our members in person, uninvited and/or non-consensual touching or grabbing will not be tolerated at all.

Zero tolerance for illegal activities

We do not tolerate drug use or excessive drinking at Ménage. You will be escorted out immediately if you are using or under the influence of drugs. Other illegal activities will also result in eviction.

Be respectful

Treat everyone with the utmost respect and dignity.  This includes your fellow members, and our team. What that means in practice, is to avoid drinking in excess where good judgement gets impaired; avoid talking loudly when you’re watching or near others who are playing; never pull out your cell phone near others who are playing, and certainly don’t attempt to take pictures.

Be courteous

Like anywhere else, people in this Lifestyle may have insecurities, uncertainties and fears. We all want to be treated courteously  – with kindness, thoughtfulness, honesty, tact, understanding and sensitivity. In essence, courtesy is the act of treating people the way we want to be treated ourselves. Remember the Golden Rule!

Be friendly

Whether or not you are personally interested in playing with someone, be polite. You never know, you may share many other interests or you may meet that person again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and do wish to share time.

Be responsible

Practice safer sex. But also, don’t bring any guest who isn’t fully informed. You are their host. You are responsible for their comfort and emotional security.

Respect privacy

Although we encourage you to invite all your friends into this sexy new world, remember to respect the privacy of our members by only talking about your experience in an anonymous fashion so as not to compromise anyone’s true identities. Also, never assume that pictures are acceptable, even if you have consent of everyone with whom you’re playing – people in the background may have a different view; leave your cell phone in your pocket.

Report any concerns immediately

If you encounter any problems or difficulties while enjoying our community, please bring it to the attention of your hosts, who will deal with it immediately.